Abuse is one of the major issues that women are facing on a daily basis. Abuse can be very scary and it can leave an emotional scar on people.
Nozuko Ncayiyane opened up about the pain that she experienced at a young age. She took to social media to share pictures of the time that she was at a photoshoot, when she could not focus at the photoshoot due to the fact that she was going through a dark phase in her life.
She opened up on that she had been having sleepless nights as she was mourning the loss of her light. She stated that she came into awareness last year and realized that she had to break generational abuse patterns in order to allow herself to recognize what real love and strong boundaries is about.
She opened up on that she experienced abuse at a young age after she witnessed her stepfather abusing her mother, while she was the breadwinner of the family. when she started dating, she experienced abuse from the man that she was in a relationship with, her first boyfriend she said. Her first boyfriend slapped her and she did not tell anyone about this issue.
Moving on to her next boyfriend, She admitted that he was worse than her first boyfriend as he made her suffer all types of abuse.
This is what she shared:
My soul was tired of heartaches, shoulder pains and sleepless nights… I was mourning the loss of my light and screaming out for peace in my life.
I came into the awareness last year – that I needed to break Generational abuse patterns in my life. I wanted to do this so I can be able to recognise real love, build strong boundaries and develop new and healthier patterns for myself and my family.
Having experienced abuse from a young age; watching my step dad(s) beat up my mom while she provided shelter for them, clothed and fed them whilst helping them to take care of their own families.
When I started dating, I fell straight in to the same patterns.
I remember the first slap from my first love, I never questioned it nor told anyone about it.
My second love was even worse, he was emotionally, psychologically and sometimes physically abusive.
The video on the last frame was taken beginning of June 2019.
I knew that I’ve had enough and that it would be ideal for me to share my story one day.
I stayed in a toxic (on and off) relationship for 3years – I was drained emotionally, psychologically, I suffered intense emotional and physical abuse and couldn’t recognise my own life anymore.
Subsequently, I realized that I had to break these patterns and take ownership of my life – although it’s been a challenging rollercoaster; I’ve decided to prioritize my safety and happiness.
it’s been over a year and a half of wholistic healing and have become more aware than I have ever been. Ulwile uNtombo!!
As we approach the end of 16 days of activism against women and child abuse, I would like to encourage/challenge individuals to keep that same “ntombo” energy throughout.
However, the threats of violence and statistics won’t end after we stand in solidarity, lest we make an active intentional contribution towards a progressive change.
My recent and most aligned partnership has to be with @siyakunakekela, in making sure we keep that energy with making a difference all year . That’s the energy that changes the world, she said.”
